ADEDIWURA ADESEGHA, NIGERIA CELEBRITIES SHARES HOW SHE LOST HER VIRGINITY (With Pictures)

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HOW TO DATE WOMEN WHO ARE HOTTER THAN YOU ARE (Part 1.)

There's nothing worse than the phrase "out of your league" when it comes to dating. It's like the English language conspired to put four words

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THIS LITTLE SKILL HAS A WEIRDLY BIG EFFECT ON YOUR ONLINE DATING SUCCESS (Dating Profile Grammar Errors)

"Hey," you write to your Tinder match. "Your cute. Wanna get drinks?"

It's a pretty classic

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DON'T SEND HER ANY SEXY TEXTS WITHOUT READING THIS FIRST (The Definitive Guide To Sexting For Hesitant Men Everywhere)

Of all the appendages a man has, the thumb has not traditionally been associated with sex. Since sexting became a thing,

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TOP 10 FEMALE EROGENOUS ZONES (Here's Your Roadmap To The 10 Places You Didn't Know She Wants You To Focus On)

All men want to be the master of their partner’s pleasure, we know this to be true. Unfortunately there’s no “One Size Fits All”

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HOW BEER MAKES YOU BETTER IN BED (Introducing A Damn Good Reason To Drink Beer Next Time You're Getting It On)

Not only is it Oktoberfest, but it’s football season, so chances are, you’re consuming even more beer than you normally do. If your girl is giving you a

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TIPS FOR SUCCESS ON TINDER (5 Things Successful Guys Do On Tinder)

Women spend a lot of time on Tinder wading through men’s profiles consisting of shirtless mirror selfies and slang- and typo-laden About Me sections. 

 

Or, if their profiles are good enough to earn a right swipe, a lot of men end up sabotaging their chances of ever meeting their matches in person by sending a message soliciting sex, a message that only says something boring such as Hi, how are you, or some other kind of inappropriate or cliche opener. 

Tinder (and dating in general) might be a tedious process of sifting through the dirt to find the occasional piece of gold, but its worldwide popularity verifies the app’s viability as a way to meet a partner. 

What can you do to differentiate yourself from all the men on Tinder making the same mistakes? What do successful guys do on Tinder? 

1. Realize that “too mundane” is almost as bad as “too vulgar”

Never send an opening message consisting only of Hi, Hey, What’s up, etc. Dating is tantamount to marketing in certain respects, especially when it comes to your first impression.

Women who use Tinder on a regular basis receive an endless stream of matches and messages. They can’t possibly scroll through every match’s profile and read every message, so they have to determine a set of criteria to help them quickly identify men worth responding to. Sending a message countless other men have sent her won’t make her look twice at your profile, much less take the time to respond. 

 

Pro tip: Pay attention to her About Me and the common interests the two of you share for information that can help you write something compelling. 

2. Bad photos can hurt more than good photos can help

Pay attention to the accuracy of your photos as far as your physical appearance goes. Be honest with yourself. You might look better in photos from a few years ago, but there’s no point in putting in the work to meet one of your matches in person if she’s going to feel misled.

Also, if you’re going to use selfies on your Tinder profile, make sure the background depicts something interesting, such as a place you’ve travelled. Avoid using your bedroom wall as the backdrop.

Finally, you shouldn’t include a shirtless photo unless the picture is of you doing some kind of activity that requires shirtlessness.

Pro tip: Try to avoid photos that have other guys in them. You don’t want potential dates viewing your profile only to decide one of your friends is cuter. 

3. Be a little flirtatious while avoiding blatant sex talk

Plenty of women use Tinder for hook ups, but that doesn’t mean they want to be solicited for sex in your opening message.

Tinder messages should consist of playful banter about commonalities you share while tactfully conveying physical attraction. Any talk about the two of you having sex should wait until the later stages of a date.

And, by the way, always suggest dates in public venues, as opposed to inviting her directly to your place or offering to meet at her place.

Pro tip: Romance novels can be a source of inspiration for developing a flirtatious Tinder messaging style. You don’t have to start reading them, but evoking that type of imagery in a farcical way can help convey sexual interest in a way she won’t perceive as creepy. 

4. Qualify the women who read your profile

Don’t just sell yourself; demonstrate that you have standards. Instead of simply listing your best traits in your About Me, add a few qualities that your ideal match possesses. Your matches will be more likely to respond to your opening messages if they feel compatible with you after reading your profile. 

 

Pro tip: One of my Tinder matches included this line in her About Me: “If you can’t make me laugh …can you make me brownies instead?” It’s a subtle, light-hearted way to signal that she values humour in a potential date. Use that kind of verbiage, whether it’s in your About Me or in a message, to convey the qualities you would prefer your matches to possess. 

5. Use statements more than questions

Listen to any conversation between two friends, lovers, co-workers, etc., and you will notice they exchange statements more than they ask each other questions.

Questions can be useful during the beginning of any type of relationship to help you get to know someone; however, men sometimes use a barrage of questions as a lazy way to get women to respond to them. Women can tell when you’re asking a trite series of questions because you have nothing better to say. 

 

Sending observational/flirtatious/witty types of statements on Tinder can help forge comfort and rapport more efficiently, since that’s how people are used to communicating with men they’re close to. 

Messages that do contain questions should have more substance than just the question, such as something about yourself followed by a question aimed at getting her to talk about herself.

But if you can’t evoke her interest by making statements about subject matter she would be interested in based on her profile, you might need to work on being a better overall conversationalist. 

Pro tip: If you want to ask a question, try to precede it with one or two statements.

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8 WAYS TO MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION ON A FIRST DATE (What To Wear On A First Date)

Do you have blue eyes? Wear a dark or light blue shirt. Do you have green eyes? Wear a white or light or mossy green shirt.

Whether you pride yourself on being on top of the latest trends, or you're admittedly a non-fashionista who just likes some nice kit now and then, the threads front does require some thought when it comes to dating.

We all know that first impressions count for a lot. If we go for a job interview, don’t we dress according to the style and essence of that company if we have any chance of getting the job? We definitely want to make a great first date impression when it comes to how we are dressed, but the thing to remember is to be you. 

Dress For The Venue

First up where are you going on your date? What should you wear? It’s probably a good idea to check before a date especially if some venues have a jacket or no jeans policy. Still, that's unlikely on the first couple of dates: my recommendation is to always keep things casual and relaxed so you can remove as many pressures as possible. 

Ask For Help

Do you consider yourself  a total fashion numpty? Do you need a divining stick to navigate your wardrobe (which is mainly formal work stuff and your rugby kit)? If you need some help then get it. Preferably from someone that you know is always well turned out and not someone who is wildly avant-garde. You need to still feel comfortable.

Match Your Eyes

Do you have blue eyes? Wear a dark or light blue shirt. Green eyes? Wear a white or light, or mossy green shirt. These are basic ideas that can make your eyes, which hopefully your date will be gazing into, all that more alluring. 

Wear Clothes That Fit

Have you got the makings of a spare tyre but are still wearing your post-marathon jeans? That goes for jackets, too. Whatever you do, it is absolutely essential that you show up on a date dressed as yourself and not a concocted or flashy version of someone that isn’t really you. After all, you do need to be you moving forward and the visual impression is the first one.

Pay Attention To Your Shoes

Check out your shoes. Yes, go on — have a good look at them. When was the last time they had a bit of a clean and polish? A tip: your date will notice your shoes. There's an old adage that shoes say a lot about a man. So put a bit of elbow grease in and give them a bit of shine. While we are on this subject, make sure shoe colour matches belt colour if visible.

Get Manicured

Now take a look at those finger nails, and if it’s a fourth or fifth date and you’re feeling lucky, how about those toe nails too? The look you don't want to achieve is clawed beasty who has just emerged from a bog. Cut your nails and clean them. If you’re planning on reaching across the table or under it to hold your date’s hand, do it with a nicely manicured, clean hand. Bad feet and toe nails in bed are a total turn off. Sort it out — you’ll find all you need to do this at your nearest pharmacy.

Shampoo Your Beard (Yes, That's What I Said)

Clothes... check. Hands... check. Shoes... check. It’s all coming together, but there's something you still need to do. To shave or not to shave, in the era of the stubble which has now segued into the ubiquitous beard? All very manly, all very sexy, all very attractive — but only if maintained. Are you planning on sand papering your date’s face off? Shampoo and condition that beard and comb it. If you have designer stubble, clean up round the edges and the neck. Get a haircut if you look like a sheep dog.

Ensure Fresh Breath

Then let’s not forget the kissing gear. If you’re going to chew gum to refresh your mouth, chew it, chew it, get rid of it carefully — never spitting it to the pavement. Don’t resume conversation like a cow or a cement mixer.

And when it comes to eau de toilette slash aftershave, remember: a spritz not a wave of it. Everyone would still like to breathe. 

Make sure your outfit and you are both fresh and fabulous. You’ll have a much better chance of making it to first base.

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WHY HAVING A SMALL PENIS IS A GOOD EXCUSE FOR A PARTY

It’s Saturday evening around 7pm, and after only one gin and tonic, I find myself surrounded by a handful of completely naked men. Some are young, some are old. Some are fat, some are thin. Some are dancing. One has an elaborate network of chains dangling from his goolies. But they all have one thing in common.

They all have small penises.

I’m at the Big Small Penis Party in East London, the first event staged to celebrate men whose cocks are smaller than average – that is, since you ask, shorter than five inches when in party mode. That’s right, there’s an actual conference for men not over-burdened by penis size, promising poetry, performance and piss-up, not to mention wine, women and song.

But wait, aren’t these men supposed to be embarrassed about this? Aren’t they supposed to hide away in shame and self-loathing? Surely getting drunk and striding around in their birthday suits is just not on?

Early arrivals hug the walls of the room, seemingly terrified of the space in front of the stage, empty except for Peter, a hirsute chap, naked but for a pair of Timberland boots and wielding a tin of small ginger biscuits shaped like dicks.

“Help yourself,” he says cheerfully, proffering the stash.

I take one and bite a testicle off. “That is really good…” I raise what remains of my phallic confection in toast.

Peter tells me they were made by poet Ant Smith, the party’s host.

Smith’s poem, Little Dick, detailing his anxieties over his physical shortcomings, was picked up in the national press (AskMen included), leading to other men from all over the world getting in touch with him to share their own stories of small penises.

Tonight Smith is not naked. He is wearing a tartan Mackintosh and a pork pie hat. I ambush him when he is outside having a smoke. He explains that although he is now the ambassador of this unlikely movement, it has only been in the last couple of years that he has been able to speak to his own wife of 17 years about how he feels: he spent much of their relationship hopping into bed with his pants on, only removing them once he was safely under the blankets.

I suggest that she must have known what size his penis was, blankets or no blankets? 

“Yes, but as long as you are not talking about something you can pretend it’s not there,” he says.

However, I imagine it’s hard to luxuriate in a landscape of complete denial when other men openly laugh at the size of your knob in public urinals.

He readily admits his penis has shaped his personality and that he’d be an “arrogant bastard” if he were better endowed, so for that reason he wouldn’t change a thing.

Anyway, it’s not just men with small penises that worry about them. In fact, men who are average sized (between five and six inches when erect) are more likely to suffer from anxiety over their genitals. That’s a hell of a lot of worry for a hell of a lot of men.

This kind of image neurosis is typically considered a female issue: we’re always being told either directly or via the media that we are too fat or too thin or too hairy or too flat-bottomed. We are told we have man-hands or cankles. We pose like I’m A Little Tea Pot in photographs so no one will realise we have bingo wings. We agonise about whether one breast is bigger than the other, and will anyone notice if we are lying down? Lots of us will only have sex in a bra so our lovers won’t think we have saggy udders attached to our chests. We worry about whether what we have constitutes as “muff cabbage” or “beef curtains”.

The list is soul destroying. But for the most part, society thinks body shaming is something that only really affects women. 

I put all of this to Smith. He hopes that his efforts to highlight male anxiety over penis size will result in some transference: “We should be able to empathise as a species – we can work together on body shaming.”

Back inside the audience has grown. The vibe is part cabaret, part nudist colony with a pinch of working men’s club. The start of the performances are marked by Ant Smith charging onto stage and, with the gusto of a seaside town crier, reciting a bombastic ode to scaly hands and being beautiful and having scars on his cock. Everyone is thrilled and baying for more.

I realise then that I’ve been expecting a pity party for men with teeny weenies. I’ve been expecting a freak show. I couldn’t comprehend that this issue could be celebrated with laughter and honesty.

We think there is no greater insult than suggesting someone has a small penis. This appendage is the last word in masculinity. It is what makes you male, so the bigger the better, right?

Anecdotal evidence (straw poll of six voluble women throwing Sauvignon Blanc in and around their mouths) suggests not.

“I’m scared of big ones,” says one, her friends nodding in agreement. They discuss how attributes like kindness, reliability and humour are infinitely more important than having a Pringles tube in your pants.

Speaking to clothed male guests at the party (“Hi there, do you have a small penis?”) they almost all agreed that men worried far more about todger size than women did. They also agreed that while having a small penis can be a source of great angst it also must be seen as a source of humour.

Performance poetry is, in many cases, a license to activate life's ejector seat but in this environment – where there is such a clear unified message, I feel pleasantly surprised.

Following on from a man accessorized by a tweed trilby and a diamond studded cock-ring sassing about respect and rivalry, is Tom Smith, someone I spoke to earlier, performing a rather wonderful poem about disastrous sexual encounters, complete with actions

“When you are naked with someone it’s hard sometimes to convince yourself that it’s going to be OK,” he had said.

Why then, could he take his clothes off in front of a room full of strangers? Why could any of these men, who were teetering on the knife-edge between crippling anxiety and supreme confidence?

“Because it’s easier than worrying about what to wear,” he had said, before adding that if the world had seen him naked then he has nothing left to worry about and if he talks about it in his poetry no one can throw it back in his face.

I look around again, as Sarah-Jane Miller starts to perform a folk song about farm animals during which every time she mentions cocks the audience is bidden to join in.

No one was embarrassed and no one was shy. The Big Small Penis Party is actually much more than the climax of a support network. It’s just one part of a story of bravery: It takes guts to wander around a bar with your one-inch pecker winking from underneath a turquoise lamé camisole. The story of the small penis seeks to completely disarm, and in doing so, appeals for humility as well as laughter.

The story of the small penis is kind of a big deal.

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THIS ONE TRAIT MIGHT BE KILLING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

When someone is labeled “clingy,” the image projected is often female. But why is this? Regardless of what studies reveal (which – based on the multitude of varied results as to who does it and why – is inconclusive), I instead turned to a professional for the answer.

“Women’s behaviour is more likely to be mislabeled and construed negatively if it’s being interpreted as weak,” relationship expert, Jessica O’Reilly (Sexologist PHD) and bestselling author of The New Sex Bible details. “When stereotypes exist, we tend to emphasize the extremes to suit our preconceptions.“ Therefore, since men are considered the “stronger” gender, it’s women who are most often branded the weakling. Fair? Not at all.

The truth is men can be just as clingy as their more beautiful counterparts. We just happen to express ourselves differently. And while women are societally encouraged to be verbal when addressing concerns (which is more effective), men, more often than not, express themselves through actions – most of which ends terribly in this scenario. “This isn’t necessarily an innate difference, but a cultural one rooted in socialization.” O’Reilly adds. “However, if you’re more needy than your partner, it can result in tension or conflict.”

You see, when the scale is too heavy on one side, arguments arise, and these arguments lead to breakups. So in case you’re unclear what qualifies as clingy, we’ve provided some examples:

• Checking in when your partner is busy (it’s especially bad when they’ve already told you they’re busy – take a hint, dude!)
• Calling in the middle of the work day
• Tagging along to social events uninvited (don’t be the boyfriend who shows up at girls’ night. Her lady-friends will hate you for it, and the last thing you want are your partner’s friends vying against you. They’ll win)
• Planning things to do as a couple without verifying whether or not your partner is available and interested.          To ensure you’re not a stage-five clinger (or stage-one for that matter) O’Reilly and I (but mostly O’Reilly, since she’s the expert) have put together a checklist to assist you. By applying our five rules below and avoiding the four bullet points above, you should be golden with your girl (guys, it's relationship science). It’s important to note that these rules apply to everyone and shouldn’t be divided by gender. So if your girlfriend gets a little, let’s say, “magnetic,” perhaps you should send her the link to this article in an innocent and unassuming way.
• Make your own plans. You can’t depend on a partner to set up “play dates” for you.
• Encourage your partner to hang out with friends without you by their side. It's always encouraged to think up fun date ideas and surprise each other with special one-on-one time once in a while, but designate a girls’ or guys’ night out once a week or every few weeks.
• Have a conversation about how much time you want to spend together. You don’t have to agree on everything, but offering an explanation can help to avoid assumptions and hurt feelings. 
• Spend time apart when you’re socializing as a couple. You don’t have to remain shoulder-to-shoulder at parties and events just because you’re dating. 
• Take your cues from your partner. How often do they call when you’re out with your friends? Follow their lead. 

You may be saying: “Thanks, AskMen, this is great, but unfortunately it’s too late. I’ve already shown my partner that I’m a total clinger – is there anything I can do to remedy this?” Well, AskMen reader, we’re glad you asked.

“Just because you have acted one way in the past does not mean that you will repeat yourself in the future,” O’Reilly asserts. “If your partner has expressed that you’re a bit clingy, acknowledge their feelings and offer to adjust your behaviour.” To aid in making said adjustment, O’Reilly suggests offering a truthful (but not creepy) explanation, something like “I feel more confident with you by my side,” to open the lines of communication. Just don’t say something that you’d hear in a poorly written romantic comedy, be sincere.

If you’re coming on a little too strong, take a look at the checklist above, and put forth a plan based on these guidelines. Have a chat, see where it takes you, and work toward being the best partner you can be. Or, you know, end things. It’s up to you.

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WHAT MEN SHOULD KNOW ABOUT LOVE BY 30

Regardless if you’ve been in a relationship for years, are dating or if you could care less about marriage right now, it’s important to develop a healthy attitude toward love. And I hate to break your balls about it — but by the age of 30, you should have a firm understanding of what you want, what you believe, what you’ll settle for and what you hope for when it comes to your love life.

While the surge of online dating and more and more couples delaying marriage has transformed the romantic landscape in America, some of the same truths still apply to finding, falling and staying in love. From how you treat a woman to what you crave with a companion to how many children you want to have, these dating and relationship experts share the 10 things every man should know about love before he’s 30. No pressure.

How To Meet Women (Not At A Bar)

Relationship and sex expert Dr. Kat Van Kirk says by the age of 30, a man should have more varied interest than just where his next brew is coming from. “You are probably not going to meet the love of your life in a bar,” she says. “Not that it never happens, but typically, people have a better chance of meeting someone compatible when they aren’t under the influence of alcohol and they are around like-minded people.”

How To Get Past The First Date

According to the 2015 Singles in America study, 51% of men imagine their future with their partner on a first date. If you fall into this half, you might have vivid fantasies but actually lack the ability to get past one date. According to relationship expert Lori Bizzoco, you might be feeling unsure how to get into something serious because you’re trying to figure out where you stand in the relationship, even if only subconsciously. “For centuries, men have always saw their place as the caretaker, but now they are trying to figure out where they fit in as women don’t need caretakers as often,” she says.

That It’s Not About Your Wallet

Many men are driven to be successful and to be providers — both for themselves and for the future they visualize. But here’s the thing: what really matters is how you treat someone, not how much money you have. And if you’re holding out until you have it all together to settle down, you might be waiting… well, forever. Dr. Kirk says attracting the right woman will come when you’re able to be vulnerable and know that you might not have everything figured out, but you’re in it for the long haul.

How To Let Go

Still holding onto lusty dreams of the girl you dated in college (who, um, according to Facebook is now married with child)? Can’t stop thinking about the woman who first broke your heart? Dr. Kirk says that by the time you reach your third decade, you need to let goof ladies who let you down. “Sometimes you have to allow incompatible partners to self-select out of a relationship with you,” Dr. Kirk. “If they don’t, or didn’t, want to be with you, they are probably saving you longer heartache down the way. It is often a blessing in disguise.”

What You Really Want

It might scare you to really sit down and think hard about what you want out of a future marriage or relationship, but Bizzoco says that not only is self-awareness good for you — it’s sexy. You shouldn’t only consider your partner, but also how you’re doing as one. What could you improve on? What are some of your weaknesses as a boyfriend? “Every man should be able to practice open, honest, self-evaluation,” she says. “A woman will like a man who can truly express his feelings and feel comfortable in his own skin.”

How To Communicate - And Listen

If you still haven’t figured out how to hold a kickass conversation — or argument — with someone you love, it’s time to study up. “Men should be able to listen without interrupting, judging or blaming. Women look for men who are open to other opinions and can talk about their feelings,” Bizzoco says. “They should know that doing all of these things will help their relationship grow stronger.”

How To Know If Your Relationship Is Healthy

“Being with the right person should help you feel good about yourself — not worse. This seems like a no-brainer, but it happens all of the time,” Dr. Kirk says. “For whatever reason, you are attracted to a person who doesn’t treat you well, talks down to you or is highly jealous. These relationships can hurt your self-esteem and affect your quality of life.” Don’t ignore the signs of an unhealthy relationship — and get out so you don’t waste time looking for a better, happier one.

How To Be Faithful

If you want a monogamous relationship, it’s time to take ‘keeping your options open’ off your Facebook profile. “A man should be mature enough to know what he wants and what he doesn’t,” Bizzoco says. “If something isn’t working you should be able to let your partner know and make the decisions that need to be made to fix the situation.”

Whether You Want To Live Together

Sure, you might already be shacking up with your lady, but if you’re not and you see it going somewhere, you need to start thinking about it. If you’re single, consider if sharing a home before you share a last name is an important step for you. According to the aforementioned Singles in America study, men are more likely to want to move in with their partner sooner: 33% of men would sign a lease after 6 to 12 months of dating compared to 23% of women.

That ‘The One’ Doesn't Exist (But That’s OK)

You might have a perfect woman carved out in your mind, but women — like men — are never going to fit one single mold. There isn’t one single person destined for you... but many people you could be happy with, says Dr. Kirk. Make a list of what you want in a partner — and then figure out which traits you could compromise on. Chances are you’ve likely let at least one person who could have been incredible get away. Keep your heart open — it’ll get you so much further.

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10 STEPS TO ENDING A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

You know the feeling. You're seeing someone and each time their name pops up on your phone you get that rush of nerves and a slightly sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. The sex is some of the best you've ever had. You start texting her at odd hours of the night and you're sounding more needy than normal. Then she starts standing you up, not replying to your texts, but you give her chance after chance (when you DO meet up it's SO good; surely she wants this as much as you do?!) This cycle goes on for weeks or maybe months – when she answers you're on top of the world and when she's being distant you're distraught. Dude, you're in a toxic relationship.

Step 1: Identify if you’re in a toxic relationship. 

Maybe you feel less than yourself with her, like you’re being inauthentic, or living off highs and lows. You feel drained or exhausted while with her or after, or while waiting to hear from her. You will feel energetically if someone is adding or subtracting from you, and if your sense of self is being sapped in this relationship, most likely your energy is following suit. It's time to ID this bad boy and move on.

Step 2: Keep a record. 

Make note of the ways she has let you down or pulled you away from your vision; of all the times that you have felt less than joyful around this person. This will increase your awareness of how much someone is taking from you.

Step 3: Identify the rewards of being in a toxic relationship.

There are payoffs for being in a toxic relationship. If there wasn’t a reward, we wouldn’t do it. Do they make you feel powerful, or important? Are they supporting you financially? Is it about not being alone? 

Step 4: Give up the excuses. 

Realise that you’re in a story that you’re making up and you get to change the ending. You can stop justifying their behaviour. 

Step 5: Get clear on your vision for your relationship. 

Try finishing these sentences to define what you want:
My vision for my relationship with _____ is...
How I want to feel when I’m with _____ is...
What _____ adds to my life is…
What I add to _____’s life is…
The clearer you are, the easier it is to identify toxic behaviour because the gap will be more obvious.

Step 6: Have the conversation. 

Create a distraction-free environment. Face to face is ideal, but Skype or Facetime will work as long as you both stay clear of distractions. Get to the point quickly. Focus the conversation on how you’re feeling vs. what they’re doing wrong. Be firm and clear on what you need from them to transform the relationship or that the relationship is over.

Step 7: Grieve and mourn the loss of the relationship. 

If ending the relationship is the result of the conversation, make time to let it go. Remove the person from every aspect of your life. Feel whatever feelings come up. Release guilt and resentment. Mourn in whatever way feels right for you. 

Step 8: Write down the lessons learned. 

Take the time to evaluate what has happened and what you’ve learned.

Step 9: Fill the emptiness with positive people and activities. 

Recognise that now is a time to rekindle other relationships and do things that are good for you. Exercise, hobbies, developing talents –anything that makes you feel good. 

Step 10: Indulge in self-love. 

Recognise the gift that you are and that you are important. You deserve love and joy, and you only need to surround yourself with people and things that perpetuate that love.

We all deserve to have the happiest and fullest life possible. “Show me your friends, I’ll show you your future.” If you surround yourself with toxic, dramatic people you’ll have a toxic, dramatic life. If you surround yourself with positive, wonderful people, you’ll have a positive, wonderful life. 

If someone is standing in the way of that, if someone is holding you back, then you have to remove them from your life

Replace them with someone or something that lifts you up and makes you feel GREAT.

Good luck.

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ROMANTIC SMS

I Promise To Listen When You Talk,
And Hold You Close As We Walk,
So Give Your Hand In Mine Forever,
As We Start Our New Life Together..!
I Promise To Listen When You Talk,
And Hold You Close As We Walk,
So Give Your Hand In Mine Forever,
As We Start Our New Life Together..!

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ROMANTIC SMS

I don’t care what Einstein says, I don’t believe in gravity because thinking about you makes me feel like I’m flying. I like you.

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ROMANTIC SMS

I sent an angel to look over you at night. The angel came back a minute later and I asked it why. It told me Angels don’t watch other angels.

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MISS YOU SMS

Whenever I Miss U Frnd..
Stars Fall Down From The
Sky.. So Any Day If U Find The
Sky Empty.. Dont Blame Me..
Its All Ur Fault.. U Made
Me Miss U So Much..!

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MISS YOU SMS

I Have This Strange Feeling
Of Missing U, Every Second Of
The Day.. Having A Picture Of
U In My Mind.. And, Longing For
Ur Presence In My Life.. Hoping
That Some Day U Will Be Mine!

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LADIES 10 THINGS TO KNOW THAT HE CAME FOR THE BODY

Men love sex. Women do, too, but most of the time it’s men who are more active when it comes to seeking it out. It’s not really a big problem, especially if they happen to find a woman who’s looking for the same thing. The problem arises, though, when a guy is willing to say or do just about anything to get laid.

Of course, there are some ladies who can read between the lines and immediately see that the guy is just looking to get into her pants. But there are also instances where guys use these little tricks to sleep with someone they’ve been dating for some time.

How do guys trick girls into sleeping with them?

So for those of you who aren’t familiar with the techniques guys use to get you into bed, keep on reading because you’re in for a couple of their best kept secrets!


#1 He’ll promise you love and maybe even a relationship.

The difference between most men and women is how they develop feelings for each other. A lot of women want to be sure that they really like the guy and that the feeling is mutual before they consider sleeping with him. But with most men, they’d want to sleep with a woman before they develop deeper feelings.

Many women already know this, and because of that, guys may sometimes promise that they’ll fall in love with you or that they already love you just so you’d agree to sleep with them. Sometimes, it’s true, especially for guys who are genuinely looking for something a little more serious. But in other cases, they use this ploy and then disappear once they get what they want.


#2 He’ll convince you that he’s really good in bed.

You can tell that a guy wants to sleep with you if the topic of sex comes up pretty often. He’ll ask you what you like, what you’ve never tried and what you’re open to trying. Then once he knows what your preferences are, he might start to subtly brag about how women say he’s really good at doing a bunch of those moves that you like.

Don’t get us wrong. Sometimes, they are genuinely good in the sack. But you may start to wonder why he feels the need to say so. To put it simply, he’s trying to get you so turned on with his words that you’d be excited at the prospect of sleeping with him.


#3 He’ll make it seem like sleeping with him is a privilege.

This can be considered the opposite of the technique above. Instead of telling you about his sexual prowess with tons of other women, he’ll tell you that he hasn’t had a lot of partners. He may say that he only has sex with someone who’s special to him. He says this so that when he asks you to finally sleep with him, you’ll immediately feel like you’re one of those special women that he’d consider sleeping with.


#4 “I promise we’ll just hang out.”

Hanging out is fine. It’s more casual than a date, and it doesn’t require any commitment. The thing is, if he asks you to “hang out” at his place at 11pm while no one is around, then he may have an ulterior motive. Add in some wine or beers into the mix and you can be pretty sure he’s looking to get laid. And speaking of alcohol…



alcohol…

#5 He tries to get you tipsy.

Once the shots are laid on the table, you’d definitely need to take a couple. Alcohol is a desperate guy’s best friend. It will get your inhibitions down and it’ll get his confidence up. After a couple of drinks, he’ll be pretty confident that you’ll be pliable enough to sleep with him. So if you feel like you’re with a guy who’s getting you drunk so you’d come home with him, quit while you’re ahead. That way, you’ll at least have a clear head if you do decide to sleep with him.

#6 “I’ve never met anyone like you” and other forms of flattery.


Some guys rely on the power of flattery to get into a girl’s pants. And the sad part is, sometimes it works, especially if the girl has really low self esteem. Some women think that if they sleep with a guy, he’ll like her even more. But the problem with this is that they just end up getting used. Don’t let a few words be some guy’s ticket into your pants.



#7 He’ll shoot down your self esteem.

This is a really sneaky trick that some seasoned players often use. When the player meets a girl, he’ll chat her up until she’s really interested in him. But once he notices that she’s not the type to put out, he’ll lower her self esteem with some subtle criticism followed by a hint that he’ll like her a lot more if she sleeps with him.

A woman who’s secure with herself would just brush it off. But a woman who’s not so sure of herself may feel like her ego is hurt because a guy she likes has said something negative. So in order to “redeem” his attraction for her, she’ll agree to sleep with him just to get him to like her again.

#8 He’ll linger around you when you’re heartbroken.


Women who have just gone through a breakup can be the most vulnerable of all. Her self esteem is down, she’s alone, and she may be looking for a rebound. In comes a guy who wants to sleep with her. He’ll act like a shoulder to cry on, someone she can confide in. And when she’s at her weakest and loneliest, he’ll show himself to be the guy who can make her feel better again. And since she feels so unloved, she may be willing to accept any kind of affection.


make her feel better again. And since she feels so unloved, she may be willing to accept any kind of affection.

#9 He’ll exert a ton of effort on you and then ask for something in return.


There are just some guys out there who are willing to manipulate a woman into sleeping with them. The most common approach they take is by acting like they’re the perfect gentleman. He’ll do her chores, pick her up from work, spend tons of money on her and spend lots of time with her. She’ll feel like a princess around her until he hints that he wants something from her.

Now, since she’s been treated really well, she may think that he deserves sex as a reward, even if it’s not really something she’s ready for. In some cases, she’s scared of losing someone who treats her so well, so she’d agree to pretty much everything he wants. You can easily tell if he’s the guy who’s just after sex based on his reaction to a refusal. If he takes it well, then he may just be treating you well because he likes you. If he doesn’t take it well, then it’s obvious that he has a sense of entitlement to your body.


#10 He’ll threaten to break up with you.


This would only work for couples or pseudo-couples who haven’t slept together yet. A guy may threaten to break up with you if you don’t sleep with him. From the start, this is a sign that all he’s after in the relationship is sex. But there are still some cases where women agree to just sleep with him because they’re scared that they’ll never find anyone else like him.

By knowing the usual techniques guys use to get in your pants, you can easily sense when he’s got an ulterior motive. Arm yourself and avoid being duped into falling into bed with him by keeping these techniques in mind!


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LOVE AND SEX AND MAGIC…

After several offers for purely sexual arrangements from several men the first week of February I was reeling quite a bit. I can’t help but wonder why, if someone is looking for a purely physical experience one wouldn’t choose a person for purely physical reasons. And if you are going to bother using other qualifications to chose a lover, why not just choose a girlfriend.

But above all of that, I started to feel objectified. Like something simply valued for it’s use. These men found value in me in as much as they could use me. Much like a person with wet hands might find a paper towel incredibly valuable for that one moment. But then after wiping his or her hands — all dry a clean again — the towel was suddenly worth nothing and left as refuse.

And I’m worth so much more than a paper towel. And, as powerful as my personal sexuality is, I’m worth so much more than it as well. There are so many other things about who I am what I want out of life and what I can offer a partner — or even a friend or acquaintance — that I can’t understand why a man would want nothing but sex from me.

Beyond that, when a man says that he doesn’t need any romantic entanglements, but he’d like to start a sexual relationship with you its hard not to feel like someone just said to you, “I’d like to have sex with you because I know I won’t fall in love with you.”

Really? You know you won’t fall in love with me? How am I supposed to take that as anything but an insult? Does that mean that you have already weighed all of the things you know about me and my personality and decided I’m not worth getting close to? What makes you think you know enough about me to make that kind of decision.

One day I was livid over lunch. My brain swirling with all of these ideas. So I chose to text every man in my phone (except for the ones currently propositioning me). Some of the guys are ex-boyfriends. Some are ex-lovers. There’s even a current lover in the mix. Some have wanted to date me and some are my good friends. I found their answers incredible so I decided to open this up for further discussion.

So, back to the question: What makes a man decide he wants more from a woman than just sex? Or domestic favors?

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I NEED A MAN. NOW!

I need some man in the worst way. Well, maybe the best way. I don’t mean sex. But, I have honestly considered stooping to sexual exploits in an attempt to get some of those other things.

At this moment I can feel this desire for a man as though it were an extra thing inside my body. It’s this lump in my throat…no, the base of the back of my neck…and it’s moving. Restless. Twisting. Pulsating. Annoying!

I want someone’s arms around me.

I want a kiss on my forehead.

I want to matter to another person so much that he has to touch me. Has to tell me how he feels about me. Has to smile when he thinks about me. Has to find a way to spend more time with me. Has to give me some of himself in exchange for some of myself.

I’m actually having a hard time thinking about anything else. I guess you would call this lonely. Even though I’m surrounded by great people. My friends, my family. I’m still solitary. A me instead of a we. And it is amplified by the fact that several men have made it clear that all they want from me is sex.

That’s extra lonely. Being told that the rest of you doesn’t matter.

So I’m loney. And I need a man. Know any?

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Looking for a gentleman in all Nigeria. 

Am a very simple being and my ways are simple. I hate cheaters and liars.

Drop your E-Mail. 

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My Name Is Madam Favour , I Need A Young Guy Who Can Make me happy In bed

 My Name Is Favour , I Need A Young Guy Who Can Make me happy On bed.
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Hello,am victory by name and am 27 years old,looking for a serious and strong relationship that can lead to marriage.contact me if interested:
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Hello,am Victory and am 27 years old, looking for a serious and strong relationship that can lead to marriage

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What I did was foolish & impulsive
If I cud take it all back i'd do this so instant
I truly didn't mean to hurt you in any way
I'm sorry for hurting you.

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I don't know

I don't know quite how to make things better between us
I can start by saying...
I'm sorry
I really am ...

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I have commited a sin

I have commited a sin to make you sad,
And am realising that am very bad,

So, plz forgive me to lessen the grief,
Ur forgiveness will led to a relief,

So plz forgive me.

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Profile of minette (She Needs Male Friend)

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I am a:

Woman

Age:

33

Star sign:

Aquarius

Country:

Morocco

City:

Rabat 

Seeking a

Sex:

Man

Age:

28 - 43

Country:

Morocco

Region:

—

City:

—

About me

je suis une jeune femme célibataire, simple, honnête, sérieuse et je suis a la recherche de l'amour, donc l'homme de ma vie, bisou a tous.

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About my match

je recherche un homme simple, sympa honnête, gentil et responsable quel en soit sa couleur de peau.

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Looking for

Marriage

Interests

Arts/museums

Languages

French

Characteristics

Build:

Average

Children:

2

Country of origin:

Cameroon

Drinking:

Light/social drinker

Education:

Vocational training

Ethnicity:

Black African

Eye colour:

Black

Hair colour:

Black

Hair length:

Neck length

Health condition:

No special condition

Height:

5' 5" (165 cm)

Marital status:

Single

Occupation:

Self-employed

Religion:

Protestantism

Smoking:

Don't smoke

 

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MUTUAL CONFIDENCE

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.

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ARE THERE PEOPLE WHO DON'T BELIEVE IN ROMANTIC LOVE?

Seeing all infidelity and heartbreaks, I stopped believing in romantic love which exists beyond the physical appearance.
Are there anyone who feel the same way? Share your experiences.

I'm not sure if I'm qualified enough to answer this. But, let me put down what I've. There is a famous quote that's making rounds. It goes like this

"I believe in love at first sight because I'm loving my mom since I opened my eyes"

Love in itself is more of a emotional feeling and desire towards somebody.
Appearance has absolutely nothing to do with Love. If its everything to do with appearance then you need to classify it under allurement  and not Love.

" Infidelity and heartbreaks" are a part of every relationship in Life at some point or the other. It does not mean you should stop believing the whole idea of relationship or Love for that matter. There is always a better day than today. Keep exploring never give up or go dark about anything.

Hope this helps. Much happiness!

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TIME TO SHARE ALL YOU WORRIES

Here is new collection of love sms for you. Send these magical words to your loved ones and express your feelings. Love is all about expressing and sharing. So go a head pick a special sms and send it to show your love.

I could never forget the warmth of your hands on my hands. I want to feel it every day and every night. So please, be mine.

My love lives until sun is rising from east and until earth is rotating around it.

I have never heard much from you. But when I see your smile, I know whats in your heart. That’s love for me.

I was thinking how can I say three words to you. Then I found a way.
“I” feel very happy with you.
“Love” is so beautiful.
“You” are enough for me for this life.
Now join first words of the sentences.

How can I explain my feelings to you. Its pain, its numbness, its like I can see only one thing, hear one thing and think about one thing. That is you.

I will never let you go. No matter what situation we are in, I love and care about you for ever.

I have a question for you. Why my heart trembles and my hand shakes while you are around? Why I feel like I have everything in the world and I am so lucky?

Every success, all achievements, my destiny, my love, all feelings are just for you.

Whenever I think about love, I think about YOU. Whenever I see beautiful things, I think about YOU. Whenever I am in trouble, I think about YOU. Whenever I am happy, I feel you with me.

Love is not conscious activity. Its something like reflex action. You smile and you cry without any reason.

I don’t expect love, affection and attention from you, but I want you to feel how I feel for you.

Love is not what you expect. It is not a bed of roses, its not a cup of tea, it’s a path full of thorns and a lake of fire.

Not everyone is able to express the feelings of love here. So do I. That’s why I am sending my heart to you, peep in it and see whats in it for you.

There is no reason, no question, no answer, no logic why I love YOU.

When I came across the feeling of love, everything seems beautiful and I fell in love with everything.

Among all the thorns of life, love is just like a beautiful red rose.

I wish I could tell you about my feelings, in the morning, middle of the night, when I eats, during sleep, in happiness and in sadness. I just want to tell you that I love you.

Three words could change my life. I can do anything just to hear those three words. Please tell me that YOU LOVE ME.

Among billions and millions of people, I choose one person. The person I want to be my soul mate. It is You, My True Love.

No matter which stage of life you are at. If you are in love, it will keep you young and energetic.

I want to love you all my life. Together we are like a strong bond and I wish it never breaks or destroys ever.

I dreamed of you and in my dream I hugged you, kissed you and said I love you. Would you please allow me to live that dream?

I feel warm, safe, happy and special in your arms. I want to stay near your heart forever.

When I thought of you I can feel pain in my heart and smoke of burning dreams. You were my painful past and the lost moment.

Your presence gives me power to face my problems and keeps me going. Your smile makes me strong and your love gives me feeling of completeness. Thank you My Love! For being there with me every time.

I am the lucky one to have such good friends, great parents and have a sweet and loving admirer like you. Love you.

I have come to know the meaning of life and happiness, just when I met you. I am lucky to have you. I love you.

I don’t just like your appearance, I like your heart because its really pretty. And its enough for me.

There is only one sweet heart for me. He is near my heart and in my eyes. He will be remain there till my life ends. He is my best friend, my love.

Never run after love, if someone is in love with you truly. You never need to even say something and its yours.

My sweet secret of life is you. My true mate, my heart beat, golden moment and my only good luck is you.

I just simply say that the only thing I want most from life is true love. True love from YOU.

The most precious gift for me is your face with a sweet smile. Because I know you smile when you think of me.

You are my dream I see every night. You are first thought I think every morning. You are my happiness I feel every time. You are my most favorite memory I never want to forget.

I want to tell you that I will hear all your stories, wipe your tears, take care of your heart and I will love you and live with you all my life.

There is not a single night, without a dream of you. I dream of you day and night, Monday to Sunday, eyes open, eyes close, every moment and every instant, I just dream to have you in my life.

This day is as special as you are. I want to tell you that there is something magical about you. When you are here with me I feel strong, happy and lucky. Thanks for being in my life.

Be in love with me and make my life heaven. You are the only essential part of my life. So don’t even think about leaving me alone. I am nothing without you.

Whenever I look up to the sky full of shinning stars, only thought comes to my mind is YOU.

The best thing happens to me in my whole life is LOVE. Loving you is my passion and spending my life with you is my dream. Please let my dream come true.

I want to remember each and every moment we have spent together. They are like beautiful dreams I ever have.

In bad and sad moments, just remember that I LOVE YOU.

You are my first thought in morning and last thought before sleep. You are my love in life and after life.

My love would never fade or change, even if you forget the promises. Whenever you look back I’ll be there for you.

I love you like words in silence, like a speech of air, like a songs of lake, like sweetness of cake.

My true story is that I don’t have a heart any more. Please check inside yourself, I believe that you have two.

Your shoulder is my favorite place to cry on. Your heart is my favorite place to live in and your arms are my favorite place to fall.

I knew it from the very first moment, when I saw your eyes and your cute smile, that you are mine and only mine.

I want to touch your soul and have you in my heart and in my arms. You are a hero of my love story. Love you.

I came to know about soul mate, the moment I have met you. You made me realize how special the feelings are, when someone is in love. I love to love you.

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SIMPLE DIFINITION OF LOVE

Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection ("I love my mother") to pleasure ("I loved that meal"). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.

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